Drama involves three characters: the victim, the rescuer, and the persecutor. In movies, we often refer to these as the victim, the hero, and the villain or antagonist. While dramatic exchanges can be entertaining from a distance, when we are involved in them, they sap our energy, take us out of reality, distort our perceptions of situations and experiences, cause us to feel victimized and/or justified in retaliating, and block us from forming strong bonds with others. Drama prevents true and deep peace from flowing into our lives.
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The Victim has particular beliefs. These beliefs support the person who is in Victim to speak a particular way.
An unwillingness to be responsible for oneself
- “I’ll never be understood”
- “It’s not fair”
- “You’re always mad at me”
- “I can’t do anything right”
The Rescuer has particular beliefs. These beliefs support the person who is in Rescuer to speak a particular way.
A desire to control, people, situations, emotion, etc.
- Desire to “fix things” or “help”
- Manipulative – wants a certain emotional outcome
The Persecutor has particular beliefs. These beliefs support the person who is in Persecutor to speak a particular way.
“Need” to be right; aggressive.
Views situations as threatening.
- Judge & Jury – Everything goes by me
- I’m perfect / never make mistakes
- Feels threatened – Justifies aggressive behaviors