Being Judgmental

Being judgmental is, in fact, the shame-based counterpart of judging. Being judgmental means critiquing behaviors, thoughts and attitudes of self and others, presuming to know the motives of others and assigning labels. Often, being judgmental is accompanied by gossip, lies, faulty perceptions, and so forth. In Reality, being judgmental is projection of one’s own experiences, biases and character flaws onto others. Thus, being judgmental is dishonest, disconnecting, shaming and denigrating to all involved, and especially to the individual who is being judgmental. Being judgmental creates fear, anxiety, difficulty choosing (paralysis), faulty perceptions, anger, resentments, and many other signs of shame and disconnection within the individual who engages in this behavior.