Bill of Rights (Boundaries)

1. I have the right to think and believe in the ways that I choose and that are true for me.
2. I have the right to speak my beliefs and be heard.
3. I have the right to care for myself and love myself.
4. I have the right to validate myself and be validated by others.
5. I have the right to defend myself & my family, physically, emotionally & spiritually.
6. I have the right to say “no.”
7. I have the right to choose what I want and what I will do with my time.
8. I have the right to make mistakes and try new things and be imperfect.
9. I have the right to clean up my messes and be forgiven by self and others.
10. I have the right to choose who I will have relationships with and how intimate I will be with each relationship.
11. I have the right to feel my feelings.
12. I have the right to express anger, fear, grief, & all of my feelings, & to validate myself.
13. I have the right to end relationships—any relationships.
14. I have the right to be told the Truth and to be honored and respected as a powerful, good, capable, responsible, loving, lovable soul.
15. I have the right to hold myself accountable and make and keep commitments.
16. I have the right to choose how I will educate myself.
17. I have the right to work.
18. I have the right to give to others.
19. I have the right to provide for myself physically, emotionally, and spiritually, to the best of my ability.
20. I have the right to defend children & all who are vulnerable & cannot defend themselves.
21. I have the right to nurture my body, mind, and soul.
22. I have the right to spend time and money and attention on myself.
23. I have the right to personal privacy (nudity).
24. I have the right to stand up to compulsion, force, evil, and aggression.
25. I have the right to teach others how to treat / interact with me.
26. I have the right to share myself with others.
27. I have the right to heal my spiritual, physical, and emotional wounds.
28. I have the right to let go of rage & hatred.
29. I have the right to forgive myself and others.
30. I have the right to overcome my fears.
31. I have the right to order & educate my mind.
32. I have the right to change my mind.
33. I have the right to change my life, my interests, my pursuits, my goals and my plans.
34. I have the right to learn from my choices.
35. I have the right to learn from my experiences.
36. I have the right to affect people.
37. I have the right to improve my surrounds (build, make, decorate, clean, etc.)
38. I have the right to my creativity and expression of my ideas.
39. I have the right to choose where I live, work, visit, etc.
40. I have the right to manage my physical body and choose where I will physically go / be.
41. I have the right to leave toxic situations, and to leave interactions for any reason.
42. I have the right to not accept / tolerate manipulation or invalidation.
43. I have the right to take risks physically, emotionally and spiritually.
44. I have the right to talk to God or my Higher Power.
45. I have the right to develop my own relationship with God or my Higher Power.
46. I have the right to my opinions.
47. I have the right to have and express my preferences, likes & dislikes, etc.
48. I have the right to surrender others’ choices—not to control others.
49. I have the right to surrender uncomfortable experiences.
50. I have the right to “start again.”
51. I have the right to humble myself.
52. I have the right to be impeccably emotionally honest.
53. I have the right to not be controlled or dictated to by other people.
54. I have the right to choose my own ways of doing things.
55. I have the right to choose my own diet.
56. I have the right to choose my own clothing and grooming and style.
57. I have the right to challenge my shame messages—to not be dictated to or enslaved by shame—to heal it and not listen to it.
58. I have the right to be happy and joyful.
59. I have the right to find and connect with validating, honest, safe people.
60. I have the right to choose how I view and identify myself.
61. I have the right to choose my thoughts, feelings, motives and actions.
62. I have the right to become self-aware, clear and centered.
63. I have the right to not be abused or attacked, and to remove myself from abuse.
64. I have the right to show up as a responsible, masculine man or a responsible, feminine woman.
65. I have the right to try new things.
66. I have the right to fail.
67. I have the right to persist.
68. I have the right to learn.
69. I have the right to succeed.
70. I have the right to talk about myself.
71. I have the right to validate others
72. I have the right to hold others accountable and ask for (and expect) honesty and clarity in my relationships.
73. I have the right to ask questions.
74. I have the right to “do my own thing” even when others choose to be angry or fearful around me and my choices.
75. I have the right to be responsible for myself and my own choices and my own outcomes in life.
76. I have the right to expect cleanliness of self and others.
77. I have the right to my expectations.
78. I have the right to go skydiving.
79. I have the right to point out people’s dishonesty, drama and distortion.
80. I have the right to parent my own children in the way that’s true for me and for them.
81. I have the right to be silly, relax, and have fun and enjoyment.
82. I have the right to find peace, truth and serenity.
83. I have the right to not ever shame myself.
84. I have the right to feel guilt, remorse and grief.
85. I have the right to be vulnerable emotionally, physically and spiritually.
86. I have the right to trust God or my Higher Power.
87. I have the right to manage my finances responsibly and honestly.
88. I have the right to conduct my business / work with integrity.
89. I have the right to take pride in my work and in my accomplishments.
90. I have the right to compliment myself.
91. I have the right to share my time, talents, money, and heart whenever, however, and with whomever I choose.
92. I have the right to sing—off-key if I want to!
93. I have the right to not perpetuate family secrets and family patterns of shame and distortion.
94. I have the right to tell my secrets and come out of hiding.
95. I have the right to ask for help.
96. I have the right to admit I’m wrong or that I need help.
97. I have the right to not know the answer.
98. I have the right to be overwhelmed or confused.
99. I have the right to my boundaries!
100. I have the right to not be responsible for anyone else’s emotions, thoughts, or choices.
101. I have the right to tell others how they affect me.
102. I have the right to experience my life with vulnerability—without judging my experiences as bad or scary or wrong. This is freedom.
103. I have the right to find out who I truly am, and to be / become who I truly am.