Anger, Fear & Triggers DVD Bundle

Anger, Expectations & Resentments

Sample Video:

Have you ever felt so angry you couldn’t sleep? Couldn’t work? Do you ever feel like you’re held hostage by anger at another person or a situation? Have you felt anger and love for the same person, at the same time? Anger is not bad. It is a God-given part of our human experience, and it gives us important information about ourselves and our environments. Yet acting out our anger in out-of-control manners is extremely destructive and harmful to ourselves and others. Anger is a complex emotion, with connections to many other parts of our emotional make-up. One of the great challenges of healthy living is learning to manage anger in a positive and constructive way.

We are responsible for all of our emotions. When dealing with anger, this is especially challenging; it is so tempting to say and believe “they made me do it” or “they made me angry.” Anger actually signals an unmet expectation within ourselves. Anger can serve as a valuable “warning light” to alert us to what is happening within and around ourselves. When we do not use anger as a tool to “wake us up,” we will slip into obsessive thinking and resentments. Hence the adage “expectations are resentments waiting to happen.” Truly, learning to utilize our expectations, our anger, and our resentments in helpful ways will lead to happier living, deeper connections, and stronger love.

This lecture is a detailed look at the many facets of anger, why it is necessary for our protection and happiness, how we can manage it responsibly to deepen our connections and relationships, and what our responsibilities are regarding our expectations, our anger, and our resentments. Also included are examples of how we can use anger constructively or destructively.

This course includes:

• 10 video segments:
  1. Introduction: Anger
  2. Some Examples
  3. Sources of Anger Dysfunction
  4. Visual Diagram for Anger
  5. Set-Ups for Anger: Examples
  6. Resentment Cycle
  7. Expressions of Anger
  8. Example: Managing Anger
  9. Conclusion: Our Responsibility
• Total video run-time: approx. 60 minutes

In this course, you’ll learn:

• What anger is and where it comes from
• The purpose of anger and what it is telling you
• Why anger is absolutely necessary
• What expectations are and why we have them
• How expectations create anger
• Two very common sources of dysfunctional anger (inability to manage anger)
• How our upbringing affects our view of anger and our ability to manage anger
• Out-of-control anger signals un-dealt-with shame. Shame can be healed!
• Where resentments come from and how they trap us in a vicious cycle
• How to handle resentments in a positive way
• Our personal responsibilities regarding expectations, anger, and resentments

Fear

Sample Video:

Everybody on the planet has felt fear—it is a human universal. Fear is nonetheless a difficult experience to understand and manage. Why do we have fear? How do we prevent it from dominating our lives, and how do we get out from under its influence? What it its purpose?

This course will help you understand your fears and their sources, and will help you manage them in truth and honesty.

Fear alerts us to possible danger. It prevents us from putting ourselves in harm’s way. For those reasons, when our fear is based in truth and reality, it is helpful and good. Whenever shame enters the situation, our fears become distorted—based on false premises. These fears are destructive and harmful. They bind us in a cycle of fear, preventing us from experiencing reality, maturing, and making wise decisions. Shame truly makes us slaves to fear.

Irrational fears usually find their basis in shame. That is good news, because it means that fear is yet one more area of our lives that will be healed as we heal our shame. It also means that fear is another window into our internal emotional world, and as we understand and address our fears, we can simultaneously heal our shame.

This course includes:

• 8 video segments:
  1. The Foundations of Fear (LDS: 7:30 / Non-Denominational: 5:05)
  2. Dealing with Fears: Tangible & Intangible (8:13)
  3. The Fear Cycle (9:02)
  4. Fear Cycle – Example: College (10:50)
  5. Fear Cycle – Example: “Not Attractive” (11:02)
  6. Fear Cycle – Example: Criticism (7:29)
  7. Funnel of Fear (4:44)
  8. Fears: Rational vs Irrational (6:35)
• Total video run-time: approx. 65 minutes

In this course, you’ll learn:

• Where fear comes from – where it begins
• How shame drives irrational fears
• The difference between rational and irrational fears
• Tangible vs Intangible fears
• Why we each have unique fears – i.e. how meaning determines fears
• The symptoms and cycle of shame-based fear
• Questions and strategies to identify core fears and find your shame

Triggers

Sample Video:

The term “trigger” refers to any event, emotion, or experience that the brain connects to a past experience, and then alters one’s emotional and/or mental state in response. None of us has a completely trauma-free life. All of our experiences, positive and negative, are stored in our minds and bodies, even if we can’t readily “remember” them. The mind uses past experiences to interpret the present and respond in pre-set ways. These patterns form “triggers.”

Addictions, shame-based habits of thought, and all destructive behaviors reinforce negative triggers. When new events activate these triggers, we are enabled to either react unconsciously and reinforce the destructive behaviors, or to see the trigger as a warning sign and make a conscious choice about our behaviors.

The great thing about triggers is that as we become conscious of what is happening, our triggers will show us the areas of our lives that are afflicted by past experiences that need to be addressed, validated, and healed. If we choose, triggers can give us opportunities throughout our lives to recognize and heal the hurts and traumas we all experience.

This course includes:

• 4 video segments:
  1. A Definition of “Triggers”
  2. How Triggers are Created
  3. Illustrations & Examples
  4. Categories & Purpose of Triggers
• Total video lecture run-time: approximately 20 minutes

In this course, you’ll learn:

• Why we must become aware of our triggers
• What kinds of things can trigger us, and exactly what “triggers” are
• Emotional, sensory, and situational types of triggers
• How triggers are created
• Why and how they manifest in our daily lives
• How to utilize triggers as powerful tools to find and heal past hurts
• Many great examples and some humorous stories that illustrate what triggers do and how powerful they are